Mar 28, 2011
My Life Be Like....
While it is a little crazy, scary, and sometimes just too much, it is still my LIFE- which is always nice to remember.
As I come to a close on my treatment, I have encountered the great realization that my treatment is ending. Someone once told me that while treatment is hard on everyone else, after treatment is hard on the patient.
When I first heard this, I was knee deep in chemo, about week 5, and I just laughed. I was so confident about killing my cancer, that I found it hard to believe that anything would be difficult for me ever again! I guess that is a good perspective to have while in the middle of a debilitating drug regimen. But as I finished my 3rd treatment and looked ahead towards my completion date, I got really depressed. While it was killing me to get through it, I didn't want it to be over! I know, crazy right??
My final round of chemo was scheduled to begin on Valentines Day. My husband took the day off work to take me to treatment that day so we could celebrate together. The first thing the nurses always do before starting is CBC (blood work) to test my levels. That monday, they came back to tell me that my white blood and red blood cells were just too low to risk it, and my treatment would be postponed one week.
I was secretly happy. (insert happy dance here)
But, I put on a "bummed" face since everyone around me was looking forward to this week. They really wanted it to be over. I kinda felt bad that I was happy. While I wanted treatment to be over, it really felt a lot better "fixing" my cancer than trying to go back to normal life.
That brings me back to "My Life be Like".
Starting over after cancer is really confusing.
What should my life be like?
On one hand, I feel like I should be skydiving, going to Disneyland (Aunt Heidi, can we go? ;), playing the lotto....you know, doing everything you ever wanted to do and living life to the fullest!
On the other hand, I feel like I should just go back to my 9-5 and try to get my life back into the pattern it was before I was diagnosed.
Truly, it should probably land somewhere in the middle.
Part of the healing process is that I have to find a new sense of normal for my life. I have to live my life as if nothing happened and know that it will forever be changed from here on out. There is no normal. I have cancer. I will always live with the fear that it could come back. I will always live with the confidence that it won't.
Therein lies the struggle to be normal.
I have to remember both, and live everyday under both truths. This is my cure.
ps- don't worry, I'm not depressed, it was a passing emotion. I was able to talk with a great counselor that I will continue to seek support from and I am moving on with my LIFE, my little and my hubby in tow ;)
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